Singleness is not a Curse

When are you going to get married? 

Have you met someone yet? 

Is there anyone special you're seeing in your life right now?

Why are you still single? 

Singles are constantly confronted with these series of questions by their peers and elders. 

In our modern day society some people frown upon those that are not in a relationship. Singleness is viewed as a curse in the eyes of many. 

As a result many singles fearfully bow to the pressure of society and embark on a relationship with a person just to avoid being considered single. 

It’s far better to be single than to be in a relationship with a person that you're not supposed to be with. Being in a relationship with a person you're not supposed to be with is detrimental, dangerous and deadly. 

Guard your heart:

My single Christian brothers and sisters don’t listen to the voice of culture, but listen to the word of God.(Matthew 7:21-24) 

Proverbs 4:23 warns and commands us to guard our heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. 

The word guard can be translated as keep and when the Bible mentions the heart, it’s literally speaking about the mind. 

Therefore you must be vigilant in your singleness. God has not called Christian singles to live a careless and carefree life, but a careful and thoughtful life. Guard your heart my single Christian brothers and sisters. Be careful who you allow to come in your life, “be not deceived: bad company corrupt good morals. (1st Corinthians 15:33) 

Be careful who you listen to and follow. One of the most popular sayings in our world today is, “follow and listen to your heart.” However when we examine God’s word we find out in Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can understand it? 

God has not called us to follow our hearts, but to guard our hearts. (Proverbs 4:23) 

Therefore we must be careful of the satanic ideologies that are being presented unto singles. 

Be careful of who and what you entertain. 

The best way to guard your heart is to fill your heart with the word of God. (Psalms 119:9:11)

New complete creature in Christ: 

If you're single and saved by the grace of God your life is blessed and complete. Satan desires for the child of God is to believe their life is lacking identity and completeness because they are not in a relationship. 

When Satan throws his net to trap and entangle you with this type of thinking, pull out the sword of the Spirit, (Ephesians 6:17) and turn to 2nd Corinthians 5:17 and begin to start wielding the sword. Do battle! 

The Apostle Paul reminds us in that particular verse, therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold all things have become new. There is no such thing as an incomplete person in Christ. All those that are in Christ are complete and a new creature. 

If you're in Christ and desire marriage, continue to pray for a mate and pursue a closer walk with Christ. The ultimate goal of Christian living isn’t marriage, but it’s the glory of God. (1st Corinthians 10:31) Seek the glory of God with all your heart, mind and soul. 

Faithfully pursue God’s glory in every aspect of your life. 

My single brothers and sisters in Christ Faithfulness doesn’t begin with marriage, faithfulness begins with God. God is faithful and he has called his people to be faithful. 

The time for faithfulness is now 

For example, one of the most popular love stories of the Bible is Ruth and Boaz. Before Ruth married Boaz she had a history of faithfulness. When Ruth's first husband passed she had the opportunity to freely return to her native land and start a new life. Instead of leaving her mother-in-law she faithfully stayed by her side and committed herself to help her in the time of need. Her main focus wasn’t a man, but her main focus was faithfulness. Oftentimes when we hear about Ruth we limit her to be an example just for women. 

But I stopped by to tell you today, Ruth is not just an example for women, but she is also an example for men. One of the main lessons we learn from Ruth is this: Focus on being faithful. The time to be faithful is now. God rewards and honors faithfulness. If you're a single Christian man don’t focus on the relationship you're not in yet, but focus on being faithful to God and his word. If you're a single Christian woman don’t give your ear to the world, but give your ear to Christ, for he knows what is best for you.

Singleness is not a curse and being in a relationship is not the cure. Sin is the curse and Jesus is the cure. (Romans 6:23)

The greatest relationship one can have is a relationship with Christ.